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Loneliness • “I have no friends”

February 9, 2021 – No friends, no family, left behind in life.

October 24, 2021 – “I have no friends”- it’s a trend and worse than you think I recently made the video “18 years old- I have no friends.” I’d love to say it was an original video idea, but truthfully, I’ve watched a lot of videos like it. Whilst every story is different, one thing is strikingly similar- the video’s popularity. Videos about having no friends do pretty well on YouTube, some have gone viral and garnered millions of views even for a small YouTube channel. The YouTube algorithm makes it look like a trend. In reality, it’s a loneliness epidemic. Whilst I’m grateful that people related to my story and that I’m not alone in feeling like I struggle to make friends, it’s pretty sad that this is where we are. In today’s video I wanted to explore why so many of us feel this way, and what we can do to make things better.

00:00 Is it a trend?
02:26 Why having no friends is common.
06:57 How do we overcome feeling alone or having no friends.

January 17, 2022 – Adult friendships are difficult. And so I don’t have any.

April 3, 2022 – “I wasted my 20s.” – Ramblings of a 29-year-old going into the final year of her twenties. Was I young, wild and free enough? Did I make enough progress in my career? Did I have the social life that most 20-somethings seem to have? Here’s what I’d go back and tell my 20-year-old self. They say your 20s are the best time of your life, what do you think?

00:00 Intro
00:59 working vs having fun
02:08 friendships
03:09 timelines and milestones
04:10 confidence (+ a bad haircut)
05:05 relationships
05:39 making decisions & growth
06:21 you know nothing Jon Snow
06:56 your 20s are the defining decade

May 21, 2022 – I have no friends.

August 14, 2022 – Is the fear of being alone ruining your life? If you feel alone even when you’re around people, if you’re the one always making more of an effort, if you never feel like the favorite, or your relationships never seem right, maybe it is. Loneliness isn’t the nicest of feelings. But what’s the cost of us trying to escape it”? Chapters

00:00 intro
02:20 reflecting on my relationships
04:49 causes
05:27 the wrong people
06:55 people pleasing
08:20 attached
09:26 losing yourself
10:52 what changed

December 15, 2022 – Modern society wants to keep you unhealthy, unhappy and hedonistic. But if you want to reach your full potential and are interested in learning about health and success then you’ve come to the right place.

00:00 Backstory
00:42 Intro
01:45 Data on Loneliness
02:22 Evolutionary Need for Friends
03:30 Why We Feel so Alone
06:40 How to Make Friends
10:16 Close

January 22, 2023 – Do you ever feel like you don’t have real TRUE friends? Not very close to ANYONE? Like everyone has already formed their friend group and you got left out? So apparently we’re all loners. We all on the same struggle bus together — we’re collectively in a friendship recession. So today I want to talk about something it seems millions of people relate to and that’s the lovely I HAVE NO FRIENDS trend. I’m going to talk about the epidemic gripping the world right now — loneliness. I’ve lost friends, I have had no friends, I have bad friends and I’ve been the bad friend.

I’ll leave you guys with lessons I’ve learned through all of that. How many close friends do you have? If you were homeless tomorrow, who would have your back and open their doors to you without you even asking? Who can you call after a bad day and not feel like you’re burdening them? For a lot of people, that’s no one. There is a loneliness epidemic in the world and people are finally speaking out about it. All over YouTube are people of all ages talking about how they don’t have friends. In a world that is obsessively on social media to connect with people, we ironically feel isolated.

In a culture that obsesses over finding love, we ironically apparently don’t have friends. And that is heartbreaking. There have been very few times in my life where I felt I had a close friend…forget about friends, even just having one really close friend was super hard. Like I’ve always had “friends,” some acquaintances, co-workers I could get drinks with, people who I saw and hung out with, but there always felt like I was missing a big piece of something — a true, real friend, someone I could really lean on, trust, and go deeper with and who I could call from jail type of friend or who I could just cry with if I was sad.

And that’s tough. It’s a very lonely feeling. The first thing that I wish I knew was: know what kind of friend you are looking for. Define what a friend means to you. What are the values you are looking for? Because I realized if I didn’t concretely know what I wanted and what I was not accepting, if I didn’t make that clear for myself, anyone was being let in that door. Don’t cling to people who don’t nourish you and don’t grow with you. I’ve truly learned to let people go. And not in a mean way. In a graceful, loving way. You don’t need to maintain a relationship with someone just because of the history you have or for the sake of maintaining it.

The other thing I learned is yes, some people you just naturally outgrow and naturally let go, but others need a little push out the door. People who disrespect you or don’t know how to apologize. Like romantic relationships, good friends are worth the wait. The next lesson I learned is that — Putting yourself out there will be uncomfortable As someone with social anxiety, trying to make friends is so daunting because I think it’s okay if I go up to someone and I say the wrong thing, or they think it’s weird that I randomly approached them, that’s where confidence comes in.

I’m just saying hi to someone and if they think that’s weird then whatever. I will never talk to them again. It’s not even about you half the time. If they are judging you for saying hi, they would have judged anyone. It’s more revealing about what kind of person they are. Which brings me to my next lesson — that Confidence is key. It’s Not just cheesy love yourself bs but it really does make a difference in how we interact with people. The next thing I wish someone told me is — Don’t feel embarrassed to not have friends — not become cold from it.

Not having friends felt really embarrassing to me. And I became really closed off. because it was scary to put myself out there and be social and outgoing and still not have friends so I choose to purposely close up and just say that I’m such an introvert and liked being alone and that’s why I didn’t have friends. I closed myself off and that made me less likely to meet people and it just reinforced that I can’t make friends so why even try. And that didn’t help anything. So it can be really easy to just close up when it gets hard but that’s just going to make you more bitter and hurt so keep at it and trust that your tribe will come.

And here are reasons why not having friends right this second can actually be a good thing for you. it can signal that you’re in a phase of growth in your life. And the second reason why not having friends can be a great thing is that you can use that time to work on you. Healing and working on yourself is really hard to do in front of people. Because it’s scary and vulnerable. And a lot of people don’t get it. But taking the time of isolation and doing a deep dive into yourself, into your past, into your traumas, into times you’ve been a bad friend and why, and working on yourself — that’s so beautiful because you know that on the other side of that you can be showing up as your authentic best self.